Forgiving does not mean
forgetting. When we forgive a person, the memory of the wound might stay
with us for a long time, even throughout our lives. Sometimes we carry
the memory in our bodies as a visible sign. But forgiveness changes the
way we remember. It converts the curse into a blessing. When we forgive
our parents for their divorce, our children for their lack of attention,
our friends for their unfaithfulness in crisis, our doctors for their
ill advice, we no longer have to experience ourselves as the victims of
events we had no control over.
Forgiveness allows us to
claim our own power and not let these events destroy us; it enables
them to become events that deepen the wisdom of our hearts. Forgiveness
indeed heals memories.
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